I HATE THOSE WORDS….
Normal people may not mind it but people who suffers from depression and anxiety and the anger/rage that comes with those illnesses, absolutely abhor that phrase.
If I could in fact “calm down” it would be unnecessary for you to tell me to do so. And I am not in the state I am because I want to be or choose to be.
No matter how many times you explain to some people that its very hard to be told THAT , there are many who feel that mental illness is not an illness/disease, they believe that you choose to feel the way we do.